Newsflash, Everyone: Tom Daley Isn’t Gay
He’s bisexual. And yes, it does make a big difference.
Tom explicitly says in the video that he still “fancies girls,” and he never uses the word “gay,” “homosexual,” or any other synonymous word to describe his sexuality.
The fact that media outlets immediately jump to the conclusion that he’s gay not only contributes to the issue of bisexual erasure, it also misrepresents what Tom Daley said, which was exactly what he wanted to avoid by making the YouTube video in the first place.
So get your facts straight everyone. Tom made an incredibly courageous decision in coming out and he deserves our support and respect.
Tagged Posts: lgbtq
December 2nd, 2013
December 1st, 2013
What do you want other people to know about bisexuality?
That bisexuality does not imply anything more about the lifestyle or relationship habits of a person than ‘heterosexual’, ‘homosexual’, etc. does. It doesn’t say anything about whether the person is likely to cheat, or the kind of sexual activities they enjoy.
September 8th, 2013
The, “A” in, “LGBTQIA+” stands for Allies–the ignorance in this room I swear.
Sophomore Sociology Major (via shitrichcollegekidssay)
So I’m going to go on a bit of a tangent here. But since the allies vs. asexuals thing keeps coming up there’s something that I think is worth pointing out: “what is” and “what should be” are two different things.
When we consider “what is”: the fact is that a large number (in fact probably the majority) of instances of the A in the LGBTIA were in fact originally intended to be “Ally”. Historically speaking, “ally” has been added to acronyms long before anyone ever thought to add “Asexual”; in fact many instances of “Asexual” joining the acronym are either as a replacement or as a supplement to a pre-existing “A” for ally. So it’s true that in many examples, the A in LGBTQIA does indeed stand for ally. So for example, if I’m looking at this as a linguist or an academic instead of as an activist, I would say that based on actual usage, the A stands more for Ally than it does Asexual. That’s the reality of how things are. But -
The fact that that is how things are doesn’t mean that that is how things should be.
I agree that in most instances (with only a few exceptions) the A in LGBTQIA makes more sense as standing for asexual; I think that in most instances “ally” should be removed. Just because it has been the prevailing norm to have ally but not asexual doesn’t mean we can’t flip that on it’s head.
On the other hand, thinking something should be the case doesn’t mean it automatically is.
I see a lot of posts claiming that the “A” in LGBTQIA has always stood for “Asexual”, and that to use it to mean “Ally” is usurping the position of asexuality. But historically speaking, in almost all instances the “ally” has been in there since before asexuality was even being really recognized - it hasn’t been usurping anything. In fact, it’s we asexuals who have been usurping the place of allies in the acronym (not that that’s a bad thing). But while pretending that “ally” has never had a place in the acronym may be useful from an activist point of view it’s just really dissonant to the side of me that cares about things like factuality and history.
And sure it’s cathartic to point and mock anyone who claims that the A stands for allies but the fact remains that if you base your opinions on actual use (not ideal use) then it is technically a fairly correct answer, if not a popular one or the best one.
So this was kind of a nitpicky thing, but I guess the basic point is: while it’s one thing to acknowledge that asexual belongs more in the acronym than ally, I think it is important to also be aware of an keep in mind the context of the development of these acronyms.
August 25th, 2013
Welcome to the LGBT “community,” where the B is made-up and the T doesn’t matter!
July 15th, 2013
In the middle of the rainbowy revelers at the pride parade in West Hollywood, Jeremy Stacy was questioned: Are you really bisexual?
July 2nd, 2013
Stonewall Riots, June 28, 1969 (and following days)
What I can’t think stop thinking about is how brave it was to be part of this movement, because — on top of all the other brave things — they were outing themselves to the police and the media and maybe their families at a time when it was even more frightening to be out.
Also, struck by the fact that I’ve never seen these photos before. This is a part of the American civil rights movement that we didn’t study in school.
July 1st, 2013
Our new episode. An interview with the WONDERFUL Eden Atwood :D Interthoughts (by sexplanations)
Eden is talent.
April 21st, 2012
Having read through and tortured myself with all the bullshit regarding the acephobics screaming that asexuality ‘preys’ on young homosexuals and that adding Asexuality to its list means that young homosexuals will be told they are asexual and not just dealing with internalized homophobia, I have a few things to say.
February 7th, 2012
November 27th, 2011
Harvey Milk was shot and killed 33 years ago today.